Social Masturbation

People are very interested in getting themselves into social media. Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, “Me me me!!!1 Listen to ME! MY LIFE! MY THOUGHTS!” but the reality is, they’re doing it the wrong way round.

First, you have to be somebody or at the very least, do something meaningful before people will give a fuck. They don’t want to know about a nobody, and chances are you just aren’t that interesting.

You need to focus on doing things first. Then allow people to connect with you.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a narcissist just like you.. but I realized that nobody really gives a shit unless you’re A) amazing 2) doing something interesting or C) potentially going to fuck them. There is no point building a state of the art retail space and shop front if well.. you just have nothing to sell.

Think about it.. we all want people to think about us, while we’re alive and after we die. Take a look at your life. What you think will live on after you’re gone.

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Ok, now accept this..

Your legacy will die. So will mine. It is just a matter of whether its going to be 5 days, 5 years or 5 centuries. The reality is, the best chance you have of staying in the popular consciousness is having a disease named after you. Fucking around wont help either, they generally don’t name those after people and well, that’s probably not the legacy you want anyway. But do you really care if it was? I mean, it’s all about the fame right? People knowing your name?

I think to myself, “wow, I have these ideas.. but if I die tomorrow, will anyone put the pieces together? will anyone care?” – and the answer is no, no matter how hopeful I am. Another overweight white geek with a penchant for Asian women that had hopes and dreams and was undergoing a journey to find himself.. woopdee-fucking-do.

We have a lot of answers to questions in this world.. its just a matter of arranging it in your head the way you want. Mix and match. It’s basically like when you were at the milk bar as a kid and you were picking what you wanted to go in your $1 bag of mixed lollies. Take what will give you the most pleasure and stuff it in the bag. No one person has all the answers – except you. The answers you choose to believe and live by. That makes you the person with all the answers, and your core/inner self/soul – or however you want to measure it – is what will tell you what is right.

You’re going to have it all figured out. It’ll just be a matter of time. Yes, you’re going to fuck up. But anyone that gets it 100% right the first time without trying is one lucky fucker, and if you’re reading this, chances are that isn’t you.

The thing they DON’T generally tell you though, is that after you have it all figured out, its all going to come down, shift, be questioned, and changed. Maybe in a week, maybe in 10 years. But shit changes. You change.

My advice? Don’t ask the big questions. Don’t wonder about yourself. Don’t try to prepare yourself for the future you want before you go out and take a shot at getting it. Suck it up. Learn as you go. Don’t waste time. Listen to yourself, but don’t listen to the fear holding you back. You can never ultimately prepare for everything, no matter how much reading, observing and practicing you do. Life is like a war, the best laid plans go out the window once the first shot is fired (a metaphor for submitting that resume, saying hi to that cute girl, telling that cunt at work to fuck off because you have no time for idiots anymore.)

You’re going to have to adapt. Don’t worry about your views. You can spend 5 years asking questions and get nowhere. Focus on getting what you want, and let your world view evolve through the journey. Building one beforehand is just like building your dream home and then having to demolish it and build another a year later.

You are the solid foundation. Build your dream house [life] on that clean slate, don’t waste time building something based on what OTHER people tell you only to have it destroyed in a short amount of time. No matter how it turns out, you will respect yourself, others will see you as strong, and people will speak highly of you.

And you know what? That will be your legacy.

One worth having.

..if you ask me (which you shouldn’t.)